My Name is Joy – Week 22

Joy

When troubles come your way consider it an opportunity for great joy.  Your faith will be tested; your endurance has a change to grow. James1:2&3

feel JOY

prepare for JOY

believe in JOY

feel JOY

encourage JOY

accept JOY

notice JOY

choose JOY

inhabit JOY

recognize JOY

savor JOY

live JOY

experience JOY

begin JOY

desire JOY

take JOY

anticipate JOY

give JOY

receive JOY

create JOY

follow JOY

share JOY

spread JOY

cultivate JOY

see JOY

catch JOY

double JOY

crave JOY

welcome JOY

magnify JOY

find JOY

be JOY

make room for JOY

 

 

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Taking Out the Wills and Nos – BPB Week 21

I promise that
1) I have the ability to achieve the object of my DEFINITE PURPOSE. I demand of myself persistence, continuous action toward attainment. I here and now promise to render such action.

2) I realize the dominating thoughts of my mind will eventually reproduce themselves in outward physical action and transform themselves into physical reality. I will concentrate my thoughts for 30 minutes daily upon the task of thinking of the person I intend to become, creating in my mind a clear mental picture of that person.

3) I know the principle of autosuggestion says that any desire that I persistently hold in my mind will eventually seeks expression through some practical means of attaining the object behind it. I will devote 10 minutes daily to demand of myself the development of SELF CONFIDENCE.

4) I have clearly written down a description of my DEFINITE PURPOSE in life. I never stop trying until I have developed sufficient SELF CONFIDENCE for its attainment.

5) I will only engage in no transactions which do not benefit all whom it they effect. I will succeed by attracting to myself the forces I wish to use and the cooperation of other people. I will induce others to serve me, because off my willingness to serve others. I will eliminate hatred, envy, jealousy, selfishness, and cynicism, by am developing love for all humanity because I know that a negative positive attitude toward others can never brings me success. I will cause others to believe in me, because I believe in them, and in myself.

I repeat this aloud once a day with full faith that it will gradually it influences my thoughts and actions so that I will become am a self reliant, successful person.

I always keep my promises.

Serenity – Change – Courage – Wisdom – Week 19

HeartCloudGod grant me the serenity…
Serenity means that I no longer recoil from the past, live in jeopardy because of my behavior or worry about the unknown future. I seek regular times to recreate myself and I avoid those times of depletion which make me vulnerable to despair and to old self-destructive patterns

to accept the things I cannot change …
accept change in that I not cause suffering for myself by clinging to that which no longer exists. All that I can count on is that nothing will be stable except how I respond to the transforming cycles in my life of birth, growth, and death

courage to change the things I can …
which means remembering that to give up my attempts to control outcomes does not require I give up my boundaries or my best efforts. It does mean my most honest appraisal of the limits of what I can do

and wisdom to know the difference …
wisdom becomes the never forgotten recognition of all those times when there was no way out and new paths opened up like miracles in my life.

I’m a week late on this post because there has been some personal things that have happened recently that needed my attention.  And frankly the higher priority for me was taking care of myself and my family rather than writing a post.

There’s some irony in that in the week we were to read an obituary everyday from our local paper that one of the obituaries was of one of the best friends of my life, the man I built a home with, raised kids with, laughed with, and loved enough to let go of when alcoholism took over his life in the hopes of saving him.

It’s been 19 years since we’ve been a couple – which means he recovered and was in recovery for every day for the rest of his 68 years.  We both went on with our lives – didn’t have much contact with each other – but always knew that if we ever really, really, really needed each other we would be there. And now I know that his love and guidance will continue to be with me because it is part of the Universal Mind.

The above prayer has hung in my bathroom for all that time as a powerful daily reminder of what we went through, how we came through, and directions for what’s to come.

Regardless of the circumstances everyone would do well to heed these words.  After all they echo the teachings of the Master Keys.

 

 

Living More Intentionally – Week 18

Fork in the RoadMy local newspaper has a weekly insert called the Neighborhood Extra.  It’s full of good news, recognition of deeds well done, people well served, and wonderful, thoughtful articles on all kinds of topics from local writers.

One of my favorites is written by a woman who is 80+ years young.  She writes under the heading Young at Heart.  She has lived quite the life – at home and around the world.  She is the wife of a former Governor and Congressman from our fair State.  She writes of their experiences when they were in politics in Nebraska and in Washington D.C., of the people they met and worked with, of raising her daughters in the public eye, of now spending precious time with her grand daughters who live thousands of miles away, and of having piles of books, periodicals, and papers in a variety of topics that she loves to read.

She starts her most recent article “Unless you’re living on a desert island, you cannot avoid the constant, relentless, often banal, sometimes thoughtful words that proffer advice about how to live better.  Something in me must be searching for such wisdom because not a day’s read of newspapers and magazines lets me off the hook from thinking that I could live more sensibly by just repeating mantra – like a slogan for happiness.

She cites many examples of people who have found happiness and joy in the everyday and in hard times.  People such as Yogi Berra with his helpful and sweet maxims such as “it’s deja vu all over again”.  Of two young men who spent the summer driving 15,000 miles across America learning of their independence, resilience, and flexibility.  They figured out that if you want to do something, you just do it.  You plan the route and hit the road.  And of Chris Koch, born without arms and legs, who urges students to not get down on themselves, and to use humor to get through the hard days.  He says “In the grand scheme of things – life is a lot of fun”.

Her musings were triggered by her recent review of The Mayo Clinic Handbook for Happiness by Dr. Amit Sood.  He tells us that happiness can be cultivated but it takes a conscious and constant effort. Humans are the only species who can switch from automatic to intentional.

A four step program is outlined to boost happiness and fulfillment.  (Does any of this sound familiar?)

  1. Train your attention – when you wake up ignore your to-do list – think of 5 people you re grateful for in your life; picture each one and thank them silently; exhale slowly,
  2. Cultivate emotional resilience – focus on gratitude, compassion, acceptance, meaning, and forgiveness,
  3. Start a mind-body practice – Tai Chi, meditation, yoga, or reading.  Relax your mind and focus on what you’re doing,
  4. Practice healthy eating, exercise regularly and get enough sleep; reduce time in front of screens.  Spend more time doing things that are truly fulfilling and focus the mind in a positive direction.

She wondered if all of the things we need to live consciously are saying the same thing.  Her conclusion was that whatever we do to live more happily is at least something.  That remembering is the big effort.  Fortunately if we forget we can start over and over and over.

I find it interesting and encouraging that someone who has seen as much, done as much, and lived a good long life is still discovering ways to live better. My conclusion is that we are surrounded by the messages and methods that have become so very clear in the MMA course.  Thankfully my awareness is heightened so that going forward I can live more intentionally and help others do the same. And if I don’t – I have tomorrow – for a do over – to be happier, healthier, more grateful, and fulfilled.

“It ain’t over ’til it’s over….”  Yogi B

 

 

 

Click to Activate – Week 17HJ

Click to Activate Your Within
Just happened to come across this in a magazine I was flipping through.  Of course it had nothing to do with what we have been studying for months.  But it gave me pause – something to think about – that all of the time and energy that we are putting in will result in us being able to subconsciously “click to activate” many things in our lives.

And that is true of anything and anyone that has value – whether it’s a job, a relationship, an adventure, fulfilling a dream.  It all takes some time to get going, grow, and mature.

What I’m learning is that I must appreciate and enjoy every step of the process in whatever I’m doing – with whomever I’m with.  I must savor what I have when I have it because the Universe keeps throwing new challenges and experiences at me.  And I must be ready by activating my within.

 

 

What’s on Your DMP – aka Bucket List? – Week 17

Bucket

Does any of the following sound familiar?

 

 

The best way to get started with anything is to make a plan.

Start writing things down.

Stick it on your mirror.

Remind yourself of what you want to accomplish.

Tell people about it – It holds you accountable.

The more you put out there the more you hold yourself to a higher standard.

You might find people to join in your goal or help you achieve it.

It helps to talk about it.

It helps make it more real.

We have to get over our fear of sharing with other people what we’d like to accomplish.

We are what holds us back.

We all have it within our power to do something deeper.

Choose something that’s going to add depth and broaden what you already have.

Speak up about what you want out of life.

These comments are from a book that has just been released “The BIG Bucket List Book – 133 Experiences of a Lifetime” by Gin Sander.

I’m becoming more aware all of the time that the lessons I am learning in the MKMMA are messages that are being shared in a variety of ways to an unsuspecting public.

That’s a very good thing!!!

Being Happy – From Aa to Zzzzzzz Week 16

BeHappyTodayOne of my favorite things to do is read.  There is nothing better than being submerged in words and the thoughts and feelings that arise from them.  Before I started the MMA-MK course I sat aside 30 minutes Monday through Friday mornings and 60 minutes on Saturday and Sunday mornings to read – chapters in a book, scripture, a monthly magazine.  I haven’t had much time to do that since October. Sadly, it’s one of the things that I’ve given up, for the time being.  I keep telling myself it’s for a greater good.

But this past weekend I saw a little light at the end of the to do tunnel.  I spent 2 glorious  hours reading on both Saturday and Sunday mornings.  I was (and am) a happy girl.

I just had to share one of the articles I came across in Good Housekeeping.  The title is “Happiness Boosters – Easy Little Tricks to Energize your Attitude”.  It shows practical applications of what we are learning. It’s not an assignment anymore – it truly is a way of living. I’ve italicized the excerpts  that, for me, directly relate to our studies.

Aa – Appreciate the Present. Think about something that’s good about your circumstances right now. It’s about shifting your perspective to focus on something positive instead of negative.

Bb – Baking is emotionally therapeutic. Kneading bread dough or watching cookies rise offers a confidence boosting sense of accomplishment. Sharing the treats gives a double punch of good feelings.

Cc – Change your commute. Research shows that walking or biking, even if it takes longer, makes one cheerier and more focused. It that’s not possible listen to an audio book to give your brain a mental getaway.

Dd – Dance. Researchers have found that the moods of depressed patients who took salsa lessons improved. Those who learned tango had less depression and insomnia and greater life satisfaction.

Ee – Experience, especially those shared with others make you feel more connected.

Ff- Flip through photos. People who focus on good things in their past are happier.

Gg- Grinning stimulates smile muscles and sends nerve signals to your brain that you’re happy. Do you smile because you are happy or happy because you smile?

Hh – Hike. Spending time outside makes you feel less tired and more alive. Twenty minutes of  exercise is all it takes.

Ii – Inhaling through your nose for 4 counts, holding your breath for 1 and exhaling through your mouth for 5 lowers heart rate and blood pressure. Aim for 3 mindful breaths per hour.

Jj – Jotting down what you feel grateful for can make you feel more optimistic.

Kk – Kissing stirs up positive feelings. Neuroscientists think our earliest experiences with lip stimulation, through nursing, lays down neural pathways in our brains that associate kissing with comfort.

Ll –Light. When people increase their exposure to bright light they argue less and feel happier

Mm – Make your bed – Doing one thing to enhance your sense of order is calming. Create “small wins”. They are really valuable for happiness.

Nn – Nosh on fruits and veggies. Research shows a link between improved mental well-being and eating 5 portions daily.

Oo – Olfactory nerves link directly to your brain’s limbic system, which governs emotion and memory. Science suggests that the aroma of an orange can calm and take away anxiety.

Pp – Pick Up the Tab. Treating a friend offers a big happiness boost. Spending just $5 on another person can make a significant difference in your mood. The amount doesn’t matter – just as long as it benefits someone else.

Qq – Quiet Time. Taking your mind off what you need to focus on can lead you to creative solutions. Your brain needs regular breaks to maintain peak function – 10 to 20 minutes every 2 hours.

Rr – Rub Down. A massage can send you into a state of mental bliss and ease anxiety in as little as 5 minutes.

Ss – Save Up. The clink of coins in a piggy bank is the sound of happiness. You reap pleasure from seeing savings grow. If you save for something special, you’ll also get the satisfaction of anticipation.

Tt- Tune in to upbeat music can really boost your mood.

Uu – Unplug. Staying tethered to your smart phone can interfere with your relationships and sleep – both of which are key to a contented, unstressed outlook.

Vv- Vacation – There’s joy in anticipating a trip, not just in taking it.

Ww – Wine – A Spanish study found that those who drink between 2 to 7 glasses of wine a week are less likely to be depressed.

Xx – Xpressing yourself creatively reduces fatigue and depression.

Yy – Youtube. Indulge yourself in clips that make you roll on the floor laughing.

Zzzzzzz – Sleep plays a huge role in our mental states. Studies show that one is happier on days after they have slept well. Naps deliver a restorative effect that can turn a bad day into a good one.